Wisely Choose People with Whom You Spend Your Time

A man is known by the company he keeps. Aesop

Relationships are Important, But So are People with Whom You Spend Your Time

In our personal as well as professional life, relationships play a major role. Humans have innate need for forming and maintaining interpersonal relationships i.e., the need for relatedness. Nonfulfillment of need for relatedness can hinder individuals’ growth and development. Not only this, our social networks play a crucial role in our career success. In sum, relationships play a very crucial role in our personal as well as professional growth and development.

These are not just the relationships that are important, but having relationships, and spending time, with right kind of persons is even more important. There are some relationships that we get by virtue of our birth, whereas a majority of relationships we form in our lifetime. You generally cannot do away with relationships that you get because of your birth or some relationships that you get at your workplace. You may not have many options in such cases. However, you have to make relationships carefully when you have choice about forming relationships. It is very important to pay attention to what kind of persons you form your relationships, and you spend your time with. Any significant relationship in your life, whether that is of marriage or friendship or with colleagues in professional settings, should be formed after careful thought.

Many people form relationships very quickly, without giving enough time to understand other persons. Then they suffer in those relationships and break them faster than the time they took in forming those relationships. Rather than regretting about any relationship and finally ending that, it is better to give yourself enough time to understand people with whom you form relationships.

In your life you are likely to come across a variety of people. Some are highly selfish, opportunist and negative, whereas others are highly positive, growth-oriented, and helpful. Give time to yourself to understand both kinds of persons and how their energy can impact you and others.

Energy is Contagious — Whether It is Positive or Negative

You need to understand that the basic nature of energy is that it never gets destroyed. It keeps moving from one source to another. So, whatever kind of energy you or other people create or emit, it stays in the universe and affects you and people around you.

Some People are Highly Negative

In life you come across a variety of people. Some carry a lot of negativity within themselves. They are highly self-centered, selfish, and opportunist. People with high negativity also create a lot of negative energy. It not only affects them, but also have an impact on people around them. In any area of your life whether that is family, neighborhood and workplace, you can find some people who carry a lot of negative energy. Most of the time they keep complaining about other people, working environment, social situations, and life’s circumstances. When you spend time with such persons, you also start feeling, thinking and behaving like them, even without realizing it. You also start developing a negative mindset. There are high chances that you can suffer because of that negativity.

There is Positivity as Well

Not all people are negative. You may have also come across people who carry a lot of positivity, and are very helpful. Quite often, they talk about the future, their vision, and opportunities to do something new. They focus on contributing to making this world a better place and to help others. When you spend time with such people, you are also likely to think, feel, and behave like them. You will feel a lot positive and energetic by talking to such people.

So, Choose Wisely What Kind of People You Want to be With

As discussed above, in life you generally come across a variety of people. Some are highly self-centered, selfish, opportunist and carry a lot of negativity within themselves. They are highly manipulative and cannot think beyond their self-interests. They can go to any extent to achieve their goals. On the other hand, there are people who are highly optimistic, helpful, growth-oriented and carry a lot of positivity. They focus on bringing positivity and happiness in other persons’ lives.

Keep in mind that you are not going to gain much by being in the company of highly negative and selfish people. You can have some short-term gains and feel happy for some time, but in the long run you are going to lose far more than you gain in the short-term.

It doesn’t happen quite often that you meet somebody and very quickly you get full understanding of that person. It takes quite a lot of time and efforts to deeply understand somebody. Hence, rather than quickly jumping into making friends or forming other relationships, and later regretting that, it is better to give some time to yourself to better understand the other person.

Tips for Being in the Right Company

You don’t have unlimited time. Your time is limited, and very precious. So, wisely choose where, and with what kind of people, you want to spend your time. Also, keep in mind that in this world you will not be able to find somebody who is perfect. If you are looking for a perfect person before forming the relationship, you will be disappointed. Rather than looking for perfect persons, look for persons who are more positive than negative. It is wise to be in the company of growth-oriented, positive people. Given below are certain steps that can help you in this regard:

1. Spend enough time with yourself and regularly analyze your thought patterns.

2. Ensure that you are not letting negative thoughts dominate your thinking.

3. Give enough time (but don’t get into over analysis) to know and understand people whom you would like to make part of your life.

4. Form and maintain relationships with people who are growth-oriented and positive.

If at the moment, you are not able to get enough chances to be with positive persons then you better spend more time with yourself. Instead of spending your time with negative people, try to spend as much time as possible with yourself. Try to read as much as you can, try to learn as much as you can. It will be very helpful for you.

Moreover, if you are not able to find one, then make yourself one. May be other persons can get benefitted by being in your company.

It’s better to be alone than being in a bad company.