People Can Give You Only What They Have – Whether It is Love or Hate
Find Out What People Have
If you go to a ready-made garment shop and tell the shopkeeper that you want to purchase sweets, will the shopkeeper be able to give you sweets? If you go to a jewelry showroom and tell the jeweler that you want to buy shoes, will the jeweler be able to give shoes? Of course not. You will not be able to get sweets from a ready-made garment shop and shoes from a jewelry showroom because they don’t have (and sell) these items. They can give you only what they have i.e., cloths and jewelry.
People – whether they are shopkeepers or other persons – will be able to give you only what they have.
In a similar way, most often people give to others what they primarily have – whether that is love, joy, respect and positivity or hatred, anger and negativity.
People who hate others and keep getting angry at them, shout at them and threaten them do so because these are the only feelings and experiences that they have. People who carry a lot of anger, hatred and negativity within themselves are also highly likely to get angry at others. People who themselves are suffering tend to make others suffer.
On the other hand, those who carry love, care and positivity will give the same to others. People are likely to give to others what they have. Whatever kind of feelings and experiences people carry within themselves, they are most likely to give those to others.
Try to Understand Why Someone is Behaving the Way He or She is Behaving
If somebody hates you or is getting angry at you, you should not react by getting angry at that person. Rather you should try to understand why he or she is behaving the way he or she is behaving. You should show compassion for that person because he or she is already suffering. Anger, irritation, hatred and negativity are manifestations of suffering that that person is already going through. It is a lot easier said than done. It is not easy to show compassion towards the person who is causing troubles for you and making you angry.
When someone is angry at us or hate us or try to hinder our progress, our natural reaction in such situation is to get angry at that person and hate him or her for his or her behavior. But if you are also getting angry at that person or start hating him or her then how are you different from him or her. When you get angry at somebody or hate that person, then you also suffer in that process.
We naturally tend to get angry when someone is mistreating us or misbehaving with us. But is getting angry at him or her and hating that person a solution? However, it does not mean that you should not express your views and raise your voice. It is important to let another person know how that person’s behavior has made you feel. To continue to tolerate others’ unreasonable behavior is also not the right approach.
But you can express your views without getting angry at and hating that person. If you try to deeply understand the life of such persons who often keep getting angry at others, you will realize that in their life they are not really very happy and satisfied. Irritation, frustration and anger keep building in their life, which they transfer to other persons as and when they get a chance. Even a slight mistake by others can make them very angry.
On the other hand, people who carry a lot of love and positivity make other persons feel good and positive. It doesn’t mean that they don’t have challenges in their life. It doesn’t mean that they are not ambitious. But they don’t let negativity take hold of themselves.
What About You? What are you Giving to Others?
What about you? Have you ever thought what are you giving to others? You can give to others only what you have. So, think about what are you giving to others – love, happiness and positivity or anger, hatred and negativity? You cannot control what you receive from others, but you have total control over what you give to others. So, give love, happiness and positivity. There are high chances that you will get what you give to others.
You cannot get others’ love and commitment by getting angry at them and hating them. Others may not behave all the time the way you want them to behave. If you love them only when they follow your instructions and behave as per your expectations, the relationship will not be deep and lasting. There may be compliance, but no commitment. Love others without putting any condition for loving them. Once you learn to unconditionally love others and give them happiness, you yourself will become a lot happier.
So, when somebody is getting angry at you or hates you, remind yourself that this is what all they have. Also, be mindful of what you are giving to others. Give love, happiness and positivity.
